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Techniques for positive parenting

Positive parenting focuses on building strong relationships with children through encouragement, communication, and setting clear expectations. This approach fosters emotional resilience and helps children develop self-discipline and problem-solving skills.

Effective positive parenting techniques:positive parenting

  • Use positive reinforcement: Recognize good behavior rather than just correcting mistakes. This builds confidence and encourages kids to make positive choices.
    Example: If your daughter takes a toy away from her baby brother but then gives the toy back to him, praise her for returning the toy. Say, “You gave the toy back to your brother all by yourself!”

  • Describe what you see without judging: Use neutral words to point out good behavior. This gives them positive attention without putting pressure on them. It helps your child know what you want to see. 
    Example: Say, “I noticed you shared your toy with your brother!” You can also help your child see their own strengths by saying, “You are such a sharing kid! That must feel good to help your brother.”

  • Set clear rules and stick to them: Establish rules and tell children why the rules are important, especially when they involve safety.
    Example: If your daughter hits her brother, calmly move her away and say, “I can’t let you hit your brother. It is not safe.”

  • Listen and show you understand: Let your child know you hear them. You don’t have to fix every problem—just listening is enough. This builds trust.
    Example: Say, “I can see you are very angry! Sharing toys can be hard.”

By using positive parenting strategies, you can make sure your child feels loved, valued, and understood. If you need extra help, the Child Abuse Research Education and Service (CARES) Institute supports families as they navigate traumatic experiences and parenting challenges.